In this article I'll cover
You might know of somebody super sensitive. It might be you, a friend or a colleague. I will share my
16 best coping tips so that you can pass them on….every act of kindness comes back to you, somehow, some day.
Aspies and HSP
For Aspies and HSP (Highly Sensitive Persons), the safest and most calming place is the oasis we create in our homes…choosing the scents, colours and textures that make us feel calm and happy. It’s a place where we can control volume, temperature, humidity, smells and the pace of life.
How Aspies feel stress
Highly Sensitive People feel their (dis)stress in more intense ways, and can suffer feeling worn out from things other people find uplifting, even a simple social chat can deplete our energy. We need to escape to a quiet and empty space to recover and digest.
Little things, barely noticed by others build up: the hum of overhead lights as we search for our toothpaste or catfood, the smell of cigarettes or perfume on somebody across the open park, the constant clatter from keyboards or tapping fingernails from the open plan office, along with scents of egg mayo, hummus and cappuchino. Add body odour, being shoved and pressed up against fabric softener scents on the train: sensory nightmares!
For a HSP, the solution to overwhelm is tricky in practice, but easy in theory: avoid or reduce exposure to the things that cause you distress…
Lots of these triggers or factors are reduced by working from home. I don’t miss a nano second of the London commute or office life.
Having a supportive life partner or friend who can recognise the early warning signs is a blessing…often it’s too late when we see the signs ourselves..
When to know we need time out.
• getting snappy in our conversations
• emails sent late at night
• skipping exercise or hobbies
• forgetting daily vitamins
• trouble getting to sleep or staying asleep
• feeling wired but tired
• inability to focus solidly on one task
• the fresh organic veggies have reached their expiry date
• pile of empty cookie boxes yet the fruit bowl is overflowing
• our best friends email us things like: ‘how are you?’
• short temper with our loved ones
• getting to bed feeling nothing was accomplished
• feeling resentful for our current routine
Asspie and HSP Tips to revive and recharge energy reserves
- 1. unsubscribing from all emails never opened/read. (you can always re-subscribe if you need them)
- 2. put multivitamins and supplements where you can’t miss them eg next to your computer or toothbrush
- 3. carry a sensory calming pack everywhere (earplugs, soft cashmere beanie, gloves, lavender scented play dough or small vial of essential oil, a mini mister with floral water eg Drench tonic, noise cancelling headphones, your phone, bottle of water and a healthy snack),
- 4. eat meals at the table without any phone, book or TV. Savour the first three bites – notice the colours, textures, flavours and say a few words of gratitude to the people, creatures that this food possible.
- 5. if you suffer low blood sugar, always have water and a healthy snack with you like dried fruit, cheese, nuts, a healthy granola bar.
- 6. Switch off phone, computer, wifi and all electronic media for at least an hour before bed. Read a paper book, write in your journal, sketch or stretch.
- 7. Check emails at three time slots day, or less. NOT every 15 minutes. And NOT when you wake up.
- 8. Focus on one task at a time only. This means only one screen open on your computer. If you are meant to be writing an article, close down gmail and other social media sites etc.
- 9. Each week spend an hour or two on a FUN hobby. Having this one space that is sacred and nurturing gives inspiration to the rest of the week. We are never too old to learn something new.
- 10. Switch to a natural skincare brand that uses essential oils instead of synthetic perfumes. Look for gentle floral waters and real ingredients on the labels that will feed your skin essential fatty acids, vitamins, minerals. This will help your skin stay healthy so it feels more comfortable and looks better.
- In the ingredients listing look for high levels of naturals. If you can afford it, pick those made with hydrosols such as Proposal in Paris. Which work out better value than buying jars of heavily diluted recipes aka junk food. (whooops was that too blunt?!!)
- 11. Hug for at least 6 seconds – this releases happy hormones.
- 12. Stroke a cat or rabbit, or find a tree to hug. In the absence of a cuddly pet, a piece of super soft velvety or silky fabric will do. A squishy soft toy is great too.
- 13. Watch a funny movie or cartoons. Add hot chocolate and snuggly blankets….better than therapy.
- 14. Add 5-6 drops of your favourite essential oil to your bath and allow yourself to wallow with music, book, tea, water, cookies…whatever makes you feel happy. I love a snack and a book.
- 15. Get a healing massage, reiki, shiatsu or acupuncture treatment. Or learn EFT tapping
- 16. Find out if you have allergies or food intolerances. Many of us on the autistic spectrum have issues with wheat, gluten, dairy… due to leaky gut
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